Mental and Physical Health

The Hidden Dangers of Social Media and Smartphones: What Every Parent Needs to Know

In today’s digital world, social media and smartphones are practically unavoidable. For many kids and teens, these tools are a daily part of life—they are used for communication, entertainment, and even schoolwork. But as a mental health clinician and Christ follower, I’ve seen the hidden dangers of constant access to these platforms. While they offer some benefits, the risks to our children’s emotional, mental, and social development cannot be ignored.

One of the most significant concerns is the impact on self-esteem and identity. Social media creates a curated reality where kids constantly compare themselves to filtered images, highlight reels, and unrealistic lifestyles. This comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy, low self-worth, and even depression. I’ve worked with many young clients who describe feeling “not good enough” simply because they don’t look or live like the influencers they follow. The Bible teaches that our identity is rooted in being made in the image of God (Genesis 1:27) and being deeply loved by Him (1 John 3:1). But social media teaches our children to tie their worth to appearance, popularity, and performance. This false foundation leads to insecurity, anxiety, and depression—something I see regularly in young clients.

Another issue is the addictive nature of smartphones and apps. These platforms are intentionally designed to keep users engaged, often leading to excessive screen time. Studies show that the average teenager spends over 7 hours a day on screens, not including schoolwork. This overuse can lead to sleep problems, reduced physical activity, and social withdrawal. It also rewires the brain’s reward system, making it harder for kids to enjoy normal, everyday activities that don’t provide instant gratification. Even when content isn’t outright dangerous, constant information and entertainment dulls spiritual sensitivity. It becomes harder for kids to sit silently, read God’s Word, or pray. Their minds are trained to be distracted.

Social media can also expose children to cyberbullying and inappropriate content. Unlike traditional bullying, online harassment is relentless and often anonymous. It follows kids home and can feel impossible to escape. The psychological toll of cyberbullying can lead to anxiety, depression, and even suicidal ideation. Parental controls help, but they are not foolproof. Kids often find ways around them or are exposed through friends’ devices. Remember, the internet is not merely a portal out to the world but also a gateway through which the world gains access to your child.

The decline in face-to-face communication skills is another less visible but equally damaging effect. Many children struggle with real-world social interactions because so much of their communication happens through screens. This can impair empathy, conflict resolution, and the ability to form meaningful relationships—all essential emotional and relational health skills. God designed us for real, in-person community. Hebrews 10:24-25 encourages believers to meet together to encourage one another. Social media creates a false sense of connection, often leaving kids feeling more alone. They may have hundreds of “friends” online, but still struggle with deep loneliness and a lack of authentic relationships.

So, what can parents do?

First, open up the conversation. Don’t just ban or take away phones or apps because that will simply demoralize your children, but talk to them about how social media makes them feel. Set boundaries around screen time, but do it collaboratively so your child understands the “why” behind the limits. Create tech-free zones and time periods at home, especially during meals and before bedtime.

Stay informed. Familiarize yourself with the platforms your kids are using. Encourage activities that don’t involve screens, such as sports, reading, volunteering, and spending time with friends in person. Model healthy behavior by managing your screen time and showing that offline life can be just as fulfilling. Children acquire more knowledge through modeling than they do from merely listening to your words.

Finally, if your child is struggling with anxiety, depression, or self-esteem issues related to social media use, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. Mental health support can make a significant difference.

Technology is here to stay—but with the right awareness and boundaries, we can help our children navigate it safely and thrive.

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Matthew Knabe, MA, LPCC, is the Director of Operations at Emerge Counseling Ministries and a licensed professional clinical counselor with over a decade of experience in mental health. He earned his master’s degree in Clinical Counseling and Mental Health from Ashland Seminary.Matthew has worked extensively with adolescents, young adults, and adults, seamlessly integrating clinical care with faith-based principles. Before pursuing counseling, he recorded and toured as a musician, including with the Christian band Sonicflood. Currently, he hosts the Experience Emerge (ExEm) podcast, where he explores the intersection of mental health and faith through insightful conversations and perspectives.