Building Self-Confidence In Youth
Self-confidence is vital for our youth as they navigate a challenging world, but as parents, it can be hard to know where to start. Here are 6 practical, faith-based tips to help you build lasting confidence in your child.
Self-confidence is a vital trait that helps young people navigate life’s challenges, make wise decisions, and live boldly for Christ. As Christian parents, we have the responsibility to instill confidence in our children—not just in their abilities, but in their identity in Christ. True confidence comes not from external achievements or societal approval, but from knowing they are fearfully and wonderfully made by God (Psalm 139:14).
Understanding Biblical Self-Confidence
The world often defines self-confidence as believing in oneself, but biblical confidence is different. It is about knowing who we are in Christ and trusting in His strength. Philippians 4:13 reminds us, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” This means our children can face any challenge, not because of their own power, but because of God’s presence in their lives.
When youth build their confidence on worldly foundations—such as appearance, popularity, or accomplishments—it is fragile and easily shaken. However, when their confidence is rooted in God’s truth, it becomes unshakable, allowing them to face adversity, rejection, and failure with faith and resilience.
Practical Ways to Build Self-Confidence in Youth
1. Teach Them Their Identity in Christ
One of the most powerful ways to build confidence in children is by reinforcing who they are in God’s eyes. Remind them that they are:
- Loved unconditionally (Romans 8:38-39)
- Created with purpose (Jeremiah 29:11)
- Valuable beyond measure (Matthew 10:31)
Encourage them to memorize Scripture that reinforces their worth in Christ. Knowing they are deeply loved and valued by God will give them a confidence that cannot be shaken.
2. Encourage a Growth Mindset
Confidence grows when youth understand that failure is not final. Teach them that mistakes and setbacks are opportunities for growth rather than reasons to give up. Reinforce the idea that God is always working through their struggles (Romans 8:28) and that perseverance builds character (James 1:2-4).
3. Model Confidence and Faith
Children learn by example. If they see their parents stepping out in faith, trusting God in difficulties, and handling challenges with courage, they will be more likely to do the same. Share personal stories of how you have relied on God’s strength in difficult times.
4. Provide Opportunities for Responsibility
Giving children responsibilities helps them develop confidence in their abilities. Whether it’s leading a prayer at dinner, volunteering in church, or taking on household chores, these responsibilities help them realize they are capable and valuable members of their family and community.
5. Surround Them with Positive Influences
The people your children spend time with will influence their self-perception. Encourage friendships with those who uplift and encourage them. Being part of a strong church community, youth group, or mentorship program can provide the support they need to grow in confidence and faith.
6. Encourage Them to Step Out in Faith
Help your children take godly risks—whether that means speaking up about their faith, trying a new skill, or standing firm in their convictions. Remind them of Joshua 1:9: “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
Final Thoughts
Building self-confidence in youth is not about teaching them to rely on their own strength, but to trust in the One who created them. As parents, our goal should be to point them to Christ as their source of confidence, equipping them to live boldly for Him. By reinforcing their identity in Christ, providing opportunities for growth, and surrounding them with encouragement, we can help them develop a confidence that is unshakable and rooted in faith.
May we raise children who not only believe in themselves but, more importantly, believe in the power of God working through them!
Rev. Jason A. Tourville earned a Master’s in Counseling (LPC & MFT) from the Assemblies of God Theological Seminary in 2002 and currently serves as the Director of Minister Care and Church Recalibration with the PennDel Ministry Network, as well as a Professional Counselor with Emerge Counseling Ministries. He currently serves as the Chair of the National Mental Health Care Committee, executing key mental health strategies across the Assemblies of God.
